Like lots of single moms out there my alone time is very scarce. That’s why when my ex cancels on taking the kids at the last minute I am not a happy camper. This weekend was supposed to be my weekend off – not that I would get much rest, as I had planned on getting a lot done before next weekend and our first real vacation ever – but instead I am still on duty. Why you ask? Well at 4:26pm on Friday I got a text from the ex saying his back went out and he has been dealing with it all week but he cannot take the kids as the pain shot he got the day before did not help.
Huh? Wait a moment here… the jerk knew since at least Monday or Tuesday that his back may keep him from taking care of the kids this weekend and he waits until an hour before we were going to leave for his place to say guess what I can’t take them this weekend? Is that really fair? What am I supposed to say “tough shit deal with it, they’re yours this weekend!” Nah! I suck it up and text back “k”. Do I get to drop the kids off with him when I am hurt or sick – NO! I have to suck it up and deal with it. But hey, I love my kids and I love spending time with them so here I am on a Saturday getting ready to take 2 of the 3 to a birthday party while scrambling to get someone to watch the 3rd kid. I also got up early this morning to take my son to his acting class (dragging the other two along for the ride and quality Pokemon 3DS playtime in the car) rathe than sleep in on the one day I had to sleep in in over 2 weeks.
And the best part of all this is, tomorrow is my oldest son’s birthday. He turns 9. While he was devastated not to get to go to dad’s this weekend and to get any gifts dad may have for him, he is thrilled (and so am I) that we get to spend all day tomorrow together rather than just the evening.
While I am very upset about missing my “me time” this weekend I am always happy to get to spend quality time with my kids. I just wish the ex would care enough about the kids to at least give us a heads up about these things. I also wish he would learn to suck it up and deal with it as he is not the only one in physical pain – try dealing with pain from a slipped disc, possible gall bladder stones, hernia, acid re-flux, asthma attack and the residual affects of the flu all while caring for 3 young kids. Am I laying in bed feeling sorry for myself… NO WAY! I’m off to 2 ice skating birthday parties! WooHoo! Why you ask? Cause I’m SUPER MOMMY!!!